Quick and Easy Tips for Handling Your Anger

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Think before you speak

In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you’ll might later regret. Take a moment, a breath, or a walk to collect your thoughts before saying anything. One of the best tactics is to take a pause before reacting. Also allow those involved in the situation to do the same. This will assist in helping all parties avoid lashing out.

Once you’re calm, express your concerns

When you find that your heart has stopped racing and you can now think clearer, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others. You also don’t want to come off as controlling during your interaction. Criticizing or placing blame might only increase tension. Instead, use “I” statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific.

Problem Solve for Effective Solutions

Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Did your spouse leave dishes in the sink again? Discuss a chore solution that might be more beneficial. Your best friend is repeatedly late to meet you? Mention how it makes you feel and express that want for understanding. Also, understand that some things are truly out of your control. Try to be realistic about what you can and cannot change and remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might only make it worse.

Don’t hold a grudge

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger to crowd positive feelings, you might find yourself spiraling down a vortex your own bitterness or sense of injustice. Forgiving someone who angered you might help you both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship. Holding a grudge will only increase negative feeling for yourself and can cause unintentional continued conflict.


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Average road rage shootings jump from 22 to 44 a month in 2 years, according to study

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Is Anger Related to Anxiety

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Signs of Anger Management Problems

Signs of Anger Management Problems

Signs of Anger Management was written by future Industrial Organizational Psychologist, Brandon Araujo, for D’Arienzo Psychological Group in June 2014.

Anger management is a term that is frequently tossed around in a joking fashion; there is even a new television sitcom called “Anger Management.” These humor-based ideas of anger management are a dramatic misinterpretation of a very serious problem, which causes those who may actually have an anger control problem to not take it seriously.

Anger is a natural emotion and an instinctive reaction to something we perceive as wrong. This emotion can be either good or bad depending on how it is handled.

Someone who is effective at managing his or her anger does so in calm, controlled, level headed manner. For example, let’s say you become angry with your spouse because they neglect garbage duty for the second night in a row. The correct response to this anger would be to first determine whether or not it’s worth getting angry about; many times people will get angry over things out of their control. Next, simply address the issue with your spouse in a calm and controlled conversation. Some common reactions to the same situation that display a lack of anger management include: passive aggressively neglecting the trash, yelling at your spouse, or even physically expressing your anger with aggressive actions.

Anger management problems have many negative side effects; not just for you, but the people around you as well. Increased levels and poor management of anger can lead to depression, anxiety, heart disease, stress, ulcers, substance abuse, and even cancer. If you experience any of the following forms of anger it may be helpful to take an anger management course or seek the help of a professional.

1)      Chronic Anger: Constantly angry, stressed, defensive, and resentful.

2)      Explosive Anger: Violent physical or verbal expression of anger.

3)      Avoidant Anger: Suppression of one’s anger.

4)      Passive Aggressive Anger: Displaying anger in non-direct ways.

5)      Rage: Uncontrollable physical and psychological expression of anger.


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The Benefits and Effectiveness of Anger Management Training

The Benefits and Effectiveness of Anger

Management Training

The Benefits and Effectiveness of Anger Management Training was written by Brett Wallace, University of North Florida Psychology Student and Future Psychologist, for D’Arienzo Psychological Group. D’Arienzo Psychological Group provides anger management training online, in our psychology practice office, or at your place of business. 

Anger management therapy has proven to be very beneficial and effective. Therapists often use cognitive-behavioral therapy to treat anger management. Beck and Fernandez (1998) performed a meta-analysis to test the effectiveness of this treatment. A meta-analysis involves the comparison of multiple studies in which the researchers of the study use a formula to standardize the scores. They then compare these scores to see if a treatment method works. The 50 studies used in this meta-analysis covered a wide range of groups such as inmates, abusive spouses/parents, and college students. The results of the study showed that overall people who engage in anger management therapy have significantly less anger than those who do not receive treatment.

Morland et al (2009) conducted a study in which they split a group of veterans suffering from PTSD into two groups. In the first group, veterans got standard care in person. The second group got standard care through video-teleconferencing. The results of their statistical analysis showed that there was no significant difference between the two groups, and that neither treatment was more effective than the other and both showed a significant decrease in the level of anger the participants had. The study also had even distribution of ethnicities. The video-teleconference method proved to be an effective method of treatment which allows people to seek out anger management therapy from therapists, counselors, and psychologists out of state or in a distance location.

Ireland (2004) conducted a study on the benefits of brief anger management therapy on prisoners. A majority of the prisoners in this study were sentenced to prison for a violent act. In their study they split the participants into two groups. One group received the therapy and the other was put on a wait-list. The group sizes for the therapy sessions were ten per session. The therapy involved twelve 1-hour sessions over the course of three days. The results indicated that the therapy was helpful in decreasing the participant’s anger level. This shows that multiple group sessions within a short timeframe may allow for a very time efficient route of therapy. Further research should be done to confirm or disconfirm findings.

Overall, research suggests that anger management in long distance formats, such as video conferencing, online counseling and training, as well as in person formats, are effective methods in treating anger management problems.

Please contact D’Arienzo Psychological Group if you or a loved one needs help with anger management.


Beck, R. & Fernandez, E. (1998). Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy in the Treatment of Anger: A Meta-Analysis. Cognitive Therapy and    Research, 22, 63-74.

Ireland, J.L. (2004). Anger management therapy with young male offenders: An evaluation of treatment outcome. Aggressive Behavior, 30(2), 174-185

Morland, L. A., Greene, C.J., Rosen, C.S., Foy, D., Reilly, P., Shore, J., He, Q., & Frueh, B.C. (2009). Telemedicine for Anger Management Therapy in a Rural Population of Combat Veterans with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: A Randomized Noninferiority Trial. Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, 71(7), 855-863.


We can learn about anger management from fruit flies.

We can learn about anger management from fruit flies.

We can learn about anger management from fruit flies. I have posted a great article from the journal Cell. Aggression may be influenced by genes; however, he have the ability to manage it with our complex nervous system, unlike the fruit fly. If you are interested in the science of anger management, I hope that you read it.

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Fighting Flies: Brain Cells Promote Fighting in Male Fruit Flies

Jan. 17, 2014 — When one encounters a group of fruit flies invading their kitchen, it probably appears as if the whole group is vying for a sweet treat. But a closer look would likely reveal the male flies in the group are putting up more of a fight, particularly if ripe fruit or female flies are present. According to the latest studies from the fly laboratory of California Institute of Technology (Caltech) biologist David Anderson, maleDrosophilae, commonly known as fruit flies, fight more than their female counterparts because they have special cells in their brains that promote fighting. These cells appear to be absent in the brains of female fruit flies.

“The sex-specific cells that we identified exert their effects on fighting by releasing a particular type of neuropeptide, or hormone, that has also been implicated in aggression in mammals including mouse and rat,” says Anderson, the Seymour Benzer Professor of Biology at Caltech, and corresponding author of the study. “In addition, there are some recent papers implicating increased levels of this hormone in people with personality disorders that lead to higher levels of aggression.”

The team’s findings are outlined in the January 16 version of the journal Cell.

At first glance, a fruit fly may seem nothing like a human being. But look much closer, at a genetic level, and you will find that many of the genes seen in these flies are also present — and play similar roles — in humans. However, while such conservation holds for genes involved in basic cellular functions and in development, whether it was also true for genes controlling complex social behaviors like aggression was far from clear.

“Our studies are the first, to our knowledge, to identify a gene that plays a conserved role in aggression all the way from flies to humans,” explains Anderson, who is also a Howard Hughes Medical Institute investigator. If that is true for one such gene, it is also is likely true for others, Anderson says. “Our study validates using fruit flies as a model to discover new genes that may also control aggression in humans.”

The less-complex nervous system of the fruit fly makes them easier to study than people or even mice, another genetic model organism. For this particular study, the research team created a small library consisting of different fly lines; in each line, a different set of specific neurons was genetically labeled and could be artificially activated, with each neuron type secreting a different neuropeptide. Forty such lines were tested for their ability to increase aggression when their labeled neurons were activated. The one that produced the most dramatic increase in aggression had neurons expressing a particular neuropeptide called tachykinin, or Tk.

Next, Anderson and his colleagues used a set of genetic tools to identify exactly which neurons were responsible for the effect on aggression and to see if the gene that encodes for Tk also controls aggressive behavior by acting in that cell.

“We had to winnow away the different cells to find exactly which ones were involved in aggression — that’s how we discovered that within this line, there was a male-specific set of neurons that was responsible for increased aggressive behavior,” explains Kenta Asahina, a postdoctoral scholar in Anderson’s lab and lead author of the study. Male-specific neurons controlling courtship behavior had previously been identified in flies, but this was the first time a male-specific neuron was found that specifically controls aggression. Having identified that neuron, the team was then able to modify its gene expression. Says Asahina, “We found that if you overproduce the gene in that cell and then stimulate the cell, you get an even stronger effect to promote aggression than if you stimulate the cell without overproducing the gene.”

In fact, combining cell activation and the overproduction of the neuropeptide, which is released when the cell is activated, caused the flies to attack targets they normally would not. For example, when the researchers eliminated cues that normally promote aggression in a target fly — such as pheromones — the flies containing the hyperactivated “aggression” neurons attacked those targets despite the absence of the cues.

Moreover, this combined activation of the cell and the gene produced such a strong effect that the researchers were even able to get a fly to attack an inanimate object — a fly-sized magnet — when it was moved around in an arena.

Such behavior had never been observed previously. “A normal fly will chase the magnet, but will never attack the magnet,” Asahina explains. “By over-activating these neurons, we are able to get the fly to attack an object that displays none of the normal signals that are required to elicit aggression from another fly.”

“These results suggest that what these neurons are doing is promoting a state of aggressive arousal in the fly,” Anderson says. “This elevated level of aggressiveness drives the fly to attack targets it would normally ignore. I wouldn’t anthropomorphize the fly and say that it has increased ‘anger,’ but activating these neurons greatly lowers its threshold for attack.”

The finding that these neurons are present in the brains of male but not female flies indicates that this sex difference in aggressive behavior is genetically based. At the same time, Asahina stresses, finding a gene that influences aggression does not mean that aggression is controlled only by genes and always genetically programmed.

“This is a very important distinction, because when people hear about a gene implicated in behavior, they automatically think it means that the behavior is genetically determined. But that is not necessarily the case,” he says. “The key point here is that we can say something about how the gene acts to influence this behavior — that is, is by functioning as a chemical messenger in cells that control this behavior in the brain. We’ve been able to study the problem of aggressive behavior at two levels, the cell level and the gene level, and to link those studies together by genetic experiments.”

This research, Anderson says, has given his team a beachhead into the circuitry in the fly brain that controls aggression, a behavior that they will continue to try to decode.

“We have to use this point of entry to discover the larger circuit in which those cells function,” Anderson says. “If aggression is like a car, and if more aggression is like a car going faster, we want to know if what we’re doing when we trigger these cells is stepping on the gas or taking the foot off the brake. And we want to know where and how that’s happening in the brain. That’s going to take a lot of work.”

David Anderson, Kiichi Watanabe, Brian J. Duistermars, Eric Hoopfer, Carlos Roberto González, Eyrún Arna Eyjólfsdóttir, and Pietro Perona. Male-specific Tachykinin-expressing neurons control sex differences in levels of aggressiveness in DrosophilaCell, January 2014

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Myths About Anger From SAMHSA

Myths about Anger from SAMHSA

Myths About Anger
Myth #1: Anger Is Inherited. One misconception or myth about anger is that the way people
express anger is inherited and cannot be changed. Evidence from research studies, however,
indicates that people are not born with set and specific ways of expressing anger. Rather,
these studies show that the expression of anger is learned behavior and that more appropriate
ways of expressing anger can also be learned.

Myth #2: Anger Automatically Leads to Aggression. A related myth involves the misconception
that the only effective way to express anger is through aggression. There are other more con
structive and assertive ways, however, to express anger. Effective anger management involves
controlling the escalation of anger by learning assertiveness skills, changing negative and hos
tile “self-talk,” challenging irrational beliefs, and employing a variety of behavioral strategies.
These skills, techniques, and strategies will be discussed in later sessions.

Myth #3: You Must Be Aggressive To Get What You Want. Many people confuse assertiveness
with aggression. The goal of aggression is to dominate, intimidate, harm, or injure another per
son—to win at any cost. Conversely, the goal of assertiveness is to express feelings of anger in  a way that is respectful of other people. Expressing yourself in an assertive manner does not blame or threaten other people and minimizes the chance of emotional harm.

Myth #4: Venting Anger Is Always Desirable. For many years, there was a popular belief that
the aggressive expression of anger, such as screaming or beating on pillows, was therapeutic
and healthy. Research studies have found, however, that people who vent their anger aggres
sively simply get better at being angry. In other words, venting anger in an aggressive manner
reinforces aggressive behavior.

Reilly PM, Shopshire MS, Durazzo TC, and Campbell TA. Anger Management for Substance
Abuse and Mental Health Clients: Participant Workbook. HHS Pub. No. (SMA) 12-4210.
Rockville, MD: Center for Substance Abuse Treatment, Substance Abuse and Mental Health
Services Administration, 2002.