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Think before you speak
In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you’ll might later regret. Take a moment, a breath, or a walk to collect your thoughts before saying anything. One of the best tactics is to take a pause before reacting. Also allow those involved in the situation to do the same. This will assist in helping all parties avoid lashing out.
Once you’re calm, express your concerns
When you find that your heart has stopped racing and you can now think clearer, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others. You also don’t want to come off as controlling during your interaction. Criticizing or placing blame might only increase tension. Instead, use “I” statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific.
Problem Solve for Effective Solutions
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Did your spouse leave dishes in the sink again? Discuss a chore solution that might be more beneficial. Your best friend is repeatedly late to meet you? Mention how it makes you feel and express that want for understanding. Also, understand that some things are truly out of your control. Try to be realistic about what you can and cannot change and remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might only make it worse.
Don’t hold a grudge
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger to crowd positive feelings, you might find yourself spiraling down a vortex your own bitterness or sense of injustice. Forgiving someone who angered you might help you both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship. Holding a grudge will only increase negative feeling for yourself and can cause unintentional continued conflict.